DISCOVER YOUR X-FACTOR AND DEVELOP IT
Every individual is unique. There is something within the you of you that is different from every single human being, that will determine how you will project in this world, how you will see the world, how you will become a special human being. Learn how to share it so that other people may learn from you, because that’s the only reason for having anything. There’s no book, nor college that will teach you this. Education systems and processes are trying from time to time to make everyone like everybody else, and the ability to conform governs success.
Don’t copy what other people do or imitate them. You will never succeed by doing that, instead the more you imitate them you will only get closer to what they do, you will never be good in doing it. What will happen is that you will slowly forget what you good at. Don’t allow your parents to implant their own dreams, that they may have failed to accomplish, on you. Your parents, teacher or lecturer will tell you what they know – what they were taught by the system. Go into abstract thinking, dream a while. Then find the tools to help you achieve your dream.
You are the best you. You will always be the second best anyone else. We are living in a culture where a person is not measured by who he is or what he is but rather by what he has. If he has a lot, he must be a great man and everyone wants to follow what he does. If he has little, he must be insignificant. Let people believe what they want, just follow your dream.
DON’T BE A SLAVE OF TIME
Human created time, and then became the slave of time. Do things at your own pace. Don’t rush, and don’t use irrelevant yardsticks. Your plan must be realistic, give yourself enough period to learn whatever you need to learn. Don’t let every word that you come across stick with you, words are a freezing of reality. They can keep you from growing, for example “intellectual”, you find the meaning of intellectual and it get stuck with you, and suddenly you begin to doubt yourself and your capabilitieis Never doubt yourself, set aside the ” what ifs”. Sometimes people believe more into yourself than you do.
RD Laing says, in his book, “The Politics of Experience”, “What we think is less than what we know; what we know is less that we love; what we love is so much less than what there is, and to this precise extent, we are much less than what we are.”
DON’T ENTERTAIN LABELS (DON’T EVEN LISTEN TO PEOPLE USING THEM)
Many people are discouraged from reaching their potential by other people who pin labels, like stupid, dumb or emotional, on them. Discourage people from using labels around you. Labels rob us of knowing each other better or learning from each other. They create distance among people, labels like Moslem, Black, Jew, etc. There’s a lot to learn from your neighbor.
TRUST YOUR FEELINGS
Trust your feelings, don’t let other people tell you what to do or how to do it. I’m referring to things like “a man don’t cry, or a lady don’t laugh out loud”. If you feel like crying, cry, and if you feel like laughing, laugh. If it feels right, it will be right. You may miss out on a great opportunity because you are afraid to show your feeling or emotion. Some stars are found on stage.
The easiest thing in the world to be is what you are, what you feel. The hardest thing to be is what other people want you to be. Finding who you are, not people telling you who you are, is the happiest trip of your life. Find you, who you are, be as you are. Then you can live simply.
LIVE IN THE PRESENT
Avoid living in the past. If you constantly dwell on the past, the past becomes your future, and that future becomes your present. The reality is what is happening now. The past is no longer real. Living for tomorrow is only a dream, all you going to have is an unrealized dream. Life is too short for you to live in fear.
DON’T SEEK PERFECTION
We are often afraid of doing something because we can’t do it perfectly. Innovators are people who make, create or do things. We don’t want to do this because we are afraid is not going to be good, or is not going to be approved of. We want to be perfect, yet nobody is perfect. If you seek perfection you will do nothing.
HOW TO GET RECOGNIZED
We all need to be recognized for our achievements. We’ve got to be recognized for doing something well. And somebody is got to point it to us. We all need that pat on the shoulder, and hear “well done”. But people never know what was right, they always point on what is wrong. Don’t be frustrated or seek recognition the wrong way.
Don’t sing in a cave. There must be people who are interested in what you’re doing. Come out of the cave, show an interest in what they’re doing. Learn to know them better, then they will be interested in you, and what you’re doing. There are ways to meet the needs of the society, and still do your own thing. It’s knowing where, when and how.
FIGHT YOUR RESISTANCE TO CHANGE
No matter where you are in life right now, you are still the creator of your own destiny. You can change this destiny by taking a decision to change seriously, by fighting your petty resistance against change and fear, by learning more about your mind, try out a behavior which fills your real needs, carryout concrete acts rather than conceptualizing about them.
Stop talking and start doing, use your senses as if you have never used them before. Think out ways in which you behave in a self defeating manner, listen to words you usher, respect the process of your own creative encounters and have faith that they will get you somewhere soon. No change take place without hard work and getting your hands dirty. You make your own life, no one will do it for you. Face your shortcomings, mistakes and transgressions. Leave your bed and live. If you fail don’t blame it on God, life or anyone.